Appropriate/Inappropriate
There are appropriate and very inappropriate responses when someone tells you they are pregnant. I'll give some examples:
Good - "Wow. I could just tell... You have this beautiful glow about you."
Bad - "I wondered why you looked so tired." or "I thought you were having hot flashes or something!"
Good - "Congratulations! I'm so thrilled for you!"
Bad - (same as above, but said in a non-convincing and condescending manner)
Good - "Oh, I bet you'll be a cute pregnant!"
Bad - "Whoa. Is that what's going on down there? I was gonna tell you to lay off the potato chips."
Good - "Tell me whenever you know if it's a boy or a girl because I'd love to make your little one a baby blanket!" (I've gotten this one, thankfully!)
Bad - "Well they say two negatives make a positive." (I haven't gotten this one, thankfully...)
I have gotten a lot of really wonderful responses to my news, probably because I've mostly told only people who are dear to me. I've had to tell a few people out of circumstance and obligation though, and have been pretty bummed at some responses. One of these came about today with a coworker I'm not fond of. And I know that this secret is mine, NOT hers, and that I shouldn't give a rip at what she thinks anyway. It's just when someone steps on a dream of yours, you get upset. Human nature. So after today, I've decided that there will be no more telling out of obligation. If I want someone to know, I will tell them. Otherwise, they can hear it through the gossip line. This is something I will not allow tarnished by crabby old bitter people, no matter who they are.
On a happier note, I've gotten really sweet responses too. I told another coworker about a week ago, a total sweetheart, who is a local high school senior. She literally jumped up and down for joy and gave me a great big hug! Now THAT is a response. Just lately, she even brought me a little gift for Jellybean - a good luck pig! It's a South American piece of pottery that is a three-legged pig. It's hilarious. I am totally putting it in the "Nursery."
I'm going to focus on the positive responses I've gotten and those are the people I know I can count on. Those are the folk that I know truly care. And those are the folks I want to include in my wee one's future.
Good - "Wow. I could just tell... You have this beautiful glow about you."
Bad - "I wondered why you looked so tired." or "I thought you were having hot flashes or something!"
Good - "Congratulations! I'm so thrilled for you!"
Bad - (same as above, but said in a non-convincing and condescending manner)
Good - "Oh, I bet you'll be a cute pregnant!"
Bad - "Whoa. Is that what's going on down there? I was gonna tell you to lay off the potato chips."
Good - "Tell me whenever you know if it's a boy or a girl because I'd love to make your little one a baby blanket!" (I've gotten this one, thankfully!)
Bad - "Well they say two negatives make a positive." (I haven't gotten this one, thankfully...)
I have gotten a lot of really wonderful responses to my news, probably because I've mostly told only people who are dear to me. I've had to tell a few people out of circumstance and obligation though, and have been pretty bummed at some responses. One of these came about today with a coworker I'm not fond of. And I know that this secret is mine, NOT hers, and that I shouldn't give a rip at what she thinks anyway. It's just when someone steps on a dream of yours, you get upset. Human nature. So after today, I've decided that there will be no more telling out of obligation. If I want someone to know, I will tell them. Otherwise, they can hear it through the gossip line. This is something I will not allow tarnished by crabby old bitter people, no matter who they are.
On a happier note, I've gotten really sweet responses too. I told another coworker about a week ago, a total sweetheart, who is a local high school senior. She literally jumped up and down for joy and gave me a great big hug! Now THAT is a response. Just lately, she even brought me a little gift for Jellybean - a good luck pig! It's a South American piece of pottery that is a three-legged pig. It's hilarious. I am totally putting it in the "Nursery."
I'm going to focus on the positive responses I've gotten and those are the people I know I can count on. Those are the folk that I know truly care. And those are the folks I want to include in my wee one's future.
posted by Suzy at
7:30 PM
3 Comments:
crabby bitter people suck! just brush it off, after all your peeps way outnumber her!
Let me say that everyone in my office have reacted appropriately. It's been crazy!
aw, suzy!! is that local high school senior ME?! hehehehe! i love your baby blogs! they're so funny!! :)
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